“Well, I just assumed you knew”…”You assumed I wouldn’t be up for it?”…”I went on an assumption that we would never make it on time”…. Ahhhhhh, yes…the assumption hole. We magically transform normal homo sapiens into braying donkeys, performing this dark, calcifying wizardry on ourselves and others on a daily basis (with due apologies to our full-time burro amigos)

How often have we uttered or heard word for word recitals of the above? How often does assuming we know what is real for a given moment match what’s really happening? (What’s really happening? Hindsight will tell you!) So often after our assumptions have proven faulty, we sheepishly grin to our partners or friends, ‘y’know I was wrong about that thing’…or we polarize and say something that defends the assumption, or the reasons for making the assumption.

Either way there are a few things we did there. First, we felt we had all the information we needed to ‘safely’ make an assumption. Secondly, we were operating on old information and failed to check back in to see if it was still true. Thirdly, we were running on fear which led to making the assumption, such as fear of confronting the source of our fear, unsafety around the source itself, be it a person or place or thing, fear of admitting that we don’t know everything already, or fear of success, which subconsciously sabotages a situation in order to prove judgments such as “Nothing ever works” or “life sucks”.

Healing the fear around knowing the truth could be a key to discovering why we make so many assumptions in our daily lives. Releasing this fear and other fears is crucial in order to regularly make decisions that work for us instead of backfiring. In a quiet moment, try touching into a fear of a situation, interaction, or person and see if you can contact root fears that lead to your assumptions about them/it.

See if the fear has an energy in your body. You can release fear through sound that wants to organically emerge directly from the energy you’ve contacted in your mind or body, or through chattering teeth, shivering etc. Allowing and accepting fear’s existence is the key to true release, including allowing it to move through you however it will. Perhaps it will leave you without your emotionally vibrating it, but don’t just banish it…ask it what it needs and give it, including the right to move on. Acknowledging and/or expressing fear can release it, but banishing, or denying fear tends to split the parts feeling the fear off from the rest of the self …throwing our babies out with bathwater.

I said earlier that calcification, or mental, physical, emotional stuckness, is part of the assumption process. Assumptions spring from stuck energy in our minds and emotions, reflected in the hard places in our physical musculature. Unquestioned assumptions powered by unfelt, unaccepted fear can manifest in the body, emotions and mind as rock-solid, protected places. A friend said to me today that people who are calcified in certain areas of their being will see calcification everywhere they look, e.g. other people being the same as they were five years ago in all that they do, situations never evolving and always having the same result time after time ad infinitum, etc.

Ani DiFranco said, “dig deeper, dig deeper this time” and that is what we assumers all need to do inside ourselves if a more flowing and pleasant set of experiences is to befall us as a matter of course.